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Decision Time

 

Dear Mrs. Figgins:  

 My girlfriend and I are in our 40’s.  We’re both women., and we’ve been together for two years. 

She’s never voiced that we’re in a committed relationship or that we’re  couple.   I believe we are. 

We spend all of our time together and are sexually monogamous.  It seems obvious to everyone but her that we’re a “couple”.    

I want to make a life with her.  Every time I bring up that I would like for us to live together someday, she says she really doesn’t want a “roommate”.    

She just can’t acknowledge that we’re “lovers”.  I know she was in an abusive relationship in the past but I’m not the “past”.   Is it possible that she’s afraid, and admitting that we’re a couple, someone better might pass her by?  

She’s my dream come true and I need to know.  

 

Dear Needing To Know:   

Time to wake up.      

You either need to accept that the situation is going to stay as is,  or make the decision to move on.  

Perhaps once you make your decision, she’ll realize she has to make one, too.  

Either way – you’ll know for sure.   

Mrs. Figgins

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