September 25, 2009
- An abso-bloody-lutely fine name after all!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I am a gay man and have been with my lover for almost 17 years. He is a wonderful man.
We are very close to my parents but not particularly close to his. He calls my Mother “Mum” but his Mother has always insisted that I call her “Mrs. Thompson”.
She is quite proper and has always been polite and accommodating when we visit.
The kicker is that her daughter in law calls her by her first name “Emily”.
I have been cheesed off about this for years, but haven’t wanted to hurt my lovers feelings. When I finally brought up the subject recently, he thought I was being foolish.
Should I say something to Mrs. Thompson or just belt up?
Colin, Yorkshire
Dear Colin:
Mrs. Thompson seems off-putting. Your lover may be a mensch but sounds a little blinkered.
Since you’re not particularly close, I suggest you belt up, and let it go.
After 15 years of calling her Mrs. Thompson, some things are best left alone. This is one of them.
Remember this if nothing else: If this is your only concern with your mother in law, think of how lucky you are compared to others.
When you look at it that way, Mrs. Thompson sounds like an abso-bloody-lutely fine name after all.
Mrs. Figgins
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