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October 28, 2009
- Here come the in-laws!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My fiancé and I are in a quandary. His mother and father actually told him that the bride’s parents should pay for hotel accommodations on the groom’s side of the family. That will be 9 separate rooms for 3 days.
His mother said it’s enough that their family is paying for airline tickets.
My parents are not only paying for the entire wedding, they’re also paying for the rehearsal dinner. I don’t think it’s fair, nor do I have the heart, to ask my parents to also pay for hotel rooms for his family.
I don’t know how to handle this.
Bride in the middle!
Dear Bride:
Your heart and your sense of fairness are in the right place. So is your etiquette.
It is the responsibility of the groom’s parents or family members to pay for their own travel expenses and accommodations.
You might offer to help out by checking out hotels in the area, but you should not be expected to pick up the tab. Discuss this with your fiancé. It is his position to let his parents know that family members need to pay for their hotel and expenses.
Proper etiquette dictates the rehearsal dinner be hosted by the groom’s parents. However, if your parents have graciously offered to host it, no good will come of creating a stir with the in-laws now.
It’s important to respect and honor your in-laws – and wise to pick your battles judiciously.
Mrs. Figgins
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