March 3, 2010
- Having Fun!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My mother and I don’t see eye to eye on me having a girlfriend. My father sits and lets my mother make the decision.
She’s afraid I’m going to end up making a girl pregnant, I would have to talk with the police or something. I’m almost 16 years old.
My family is Mormon’s. My wish is to have a girlfriend I can have clean fun. Dance, go to the beaches but not have sex.
I don’t think that to have a girlfriend at my age is to soon.
Do you think my thinking is croked?
Guiherme, Brazil
Dear Guiherme:
There is nothing “crooked” or wrong about your request. You sound like a healthy young man with normal desires.
You’re parents are protective because if you make bad decisions your life could become “much more complicated than a conversation with the police or something”. A single irresponsible act can alter your carefree young life forever.
As a mormon your faith encourages you to remain sexually pure, and by your letter, it seems like you respect this tenet.
Talk with your parents and ask what rules they would want you to abide by which would give them a level of comfort and allow you to have a girlfriend. This is the correct approach.
Mrs. Figgins
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