November 5, 2009
- For always, in all ways.
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My husband and I are celebrating our 5 year anniversary. We are blessed with 3 beautiful children.
Like many Americans, we’ve been affected financially. He holds down 2 jobs and I’m a stay at home Mom.
We’re under a daily stress and strain.
I’m feeling like I should find a nanny and start looking for a job myself. Not helping financially is making me feel helpless and depressed.
The worst part is that after taking care of the children all day, I barely have anything left for my husband. Yet, he comes home to help me with the children and never has once complained.
Can you help me think thru this?
Mom of 3.
Dear Mom of 3:
When a couple gets married, and makes the decision to have a child, that sole decision becomes the single pivotal point from which all other decisions are then made.
Research shows that nothing and no one replaces the woman whose womb the child comes out of. This is critical for the first 3-4 years of the child’s life. No one can replace a Mother. There is no job more important. Nannies are not a substitute.
Your husband is keeping his end of the bargain by supporting the family and being your backbone.
You took a vow to honor your husband. You promised to love him - not neglect him.
Home should not be a “time out” or a parking place for the night. It is where our spirit is fueled, are footing reinforced. Home is where the wells of our heart are filled.
When he walks in at night, stop and really look at him. Hug and kiss him. Wrap yourself around him and hold on tight. Find the time, make the time, take the time for love making. Be his wife, and his girlfriend. Each day find ten things to compliment him. Touch base during the day to say I Love You.
It is critical in a marriage to make time for just the two of you.
Romance should not end upon having children. Begin anew. Romance is an attitude, a touch, a glance, a whisper, a kiss, initiating love making with your spouse – verbally and physically.
Yes, it all takes work, and it doesn’t just magically happen. It’s not always convenient. The truth is most of the time you have to plan it out.
Love is a tender, strong and resilient muscle that must be exercised each and every day. Love is our greatest gift.
Mrs. Figgins
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