May 5, 2011
- Right Way! Wrong Way! You Choose.
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I am 20 year old college student and feel totally suffocated by my parents.
We are Mormons and my Mother and Father will be destroyed when they find out I want to live off campus with my boyfriend.
He is the man of my dreams and I want to move forward with my life and not live by my parent’s unreasonable rules.
We want to be responsible and don’t want to get married until we both graduate, but can’t wait to start our life together.
Wanting Freedom!
Dear Freedom:
In life, everything has a price. Commitment has a price, and so does freedom. This is true, regardless of whether you are Christian, Mormon, Catholic, Jewish, Muslim, Buddist, Gay or Straight.
No doubt, your parents have worked very hard to pave a good foundation for your life’s journey. This includes paying for your education, which is a gift from them because they love you. It is not an automatic right. Don’t destroy this for yourself.
Living together with your boyfriend before marriage is not the right thing to do. Because of your upbringing, you know this deep down.
Mr. Dreamy will be there “if” he’s worth it. He will only be there in the long run, not because you made things “easy”, but because you were worth waiting for. If by chance, he turns out not to be the guy of your dreams…just think how much wiser and sweeter your decision to wait would have been.
This is what you will want someday when you are a parent. This is what your parents want for you.
Do the right thing. Wait.
Mrs. Figgins
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