January 13, 2011
- Out.
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I’m a successful man, who has just come out of the closet. I’m blessed to have a great family. Everyone has been extremely supportive of my decision as well as of my relationship.
Recently I went to a school reunion and told a few of my old friends. Some of where shocked, and had questions. I’ve since received invitations from friends to get together with them at their families for the holidays.
The problem I’m having is that I don’t know if the invitation is about friendship or curiosity about being a token gay friend.
Don’t know if I should trust?
Dear Not Sure:
You obviously felt that the old friends you did come out to were worth your trust.
Life doesn’t have any guarantee for any of us, under any circumstance, and there will be “friends” that turn out to be a disappointment. But you need to believe that you have friends that truly care about you and worth you friendship.
Your apprehension is understandable. And yes, unfortunately it is still uncomfortable for most gay people to take that step out of the closet. However, distrusting people because you think they will judge you for being gay is an old concept, and crippling.
Who we are as human beings is what are ultimately judged on.
Trust that if we face life with integrity, it will be a wonderful ride full of priceless memories.
Mrs. Figgins
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