June 18, 2011
- Clean this mess up NOW!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I’m 19 and dating a 23 year old. There is a huge part of me deep down that knows he’s not the one, and I admit (at least to you) that I don’t trust him much. He’s treated me pretty badly. He’s never been physically abusive, but he has been extremely emotionally and verbally harsh. It gets worse when he drinks.
He’s being deployed next month.. My gut is that I should just tell him now that I don’t want to continue our relationship. But my other feeling is that maybe it would be the honorable thing to wait and not tell him now, especially when he may be going off to war. He’s using his deployment as a reason for us to be sexually intimate. My faith doesn’t allow this.
If I tell my Mother (forget telling my Dad), her answer would be for me just to tell him it’s off NOW.
Mrs. Figgins, I just don’t know what to do. I’m not the confrontational type, so maybe that’s why I’m in this state.
He’s off war and I’m in a mess!
Dear In A Mess:
Let me start by saying that both your Mom and Dad would be very proud that you held on to your faith and made the right decision regarding pre-marital sex. The other choice may have been life altering.
Your Mother is wise: Tell him it’s off NOW.
I hope this ordeal has made an indelible mark on the choices and decisions that you make along your path.
Mrs. Figgins
Love,Relationships,advice
