October 5, 2009
- Shaking It Off
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I have an old “friend” I don’t know how to shake?
A few years back my ex husband and I went thru some pretty bad financial times. We divorced, he skipped town and child support – and I raised my 3 truly great kids alone. My “best friend” at the time, dropped out of site. She actually told me she had no intention of being roped into carpooling or anything else to do with the kids.
Years have passed, I’ve since remarried, and must say, GOD has smiled on me. I have a wonderful husband and a delicious life with a home on the waterfront. All of a sudden my “best friend” , whom I’ve not heard from in years, has been writing and calling. She has a new boyfriend and wants to pick our friendship back up.
I’m not interested in the least, but don’t know how to go about shaking this situation without being rude?
Dear Shaking:
You don’t have to be rude, and you don’t have to pick back up.
Just tell your friend that your life has taken a different direction since she went away. You’ll feel better if you don’t get into all the stuff of the past, which matters not a bit now.
Wish her all the best and let it end there. You have no obligation.
Simply…shake it off.
Mrs. Figgins
Love,Retirement,advice
