April 17, 2010
- How many invitations?
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My Fiance and I mailed out our wedding invitations about a month ago.
My future Mother in Law received hers and attempted to commit suicide because we didn’t put her name on the invitation intself, only the envelope which said Ms. (first and last name), no and guest.
She was committed to a mental hospital and released about a week later. She will not speak to me and says her trying to kill herself was my fault because I intentionally disrespected her. Three weeks later she is still not talking to me. We received her RSVP yesterday and she has invited other people as her guests. I don’t know what to do.
Do I allow her to intive more people in fear that she will try something again and blame me, or do I put a stop to her uninvited guest scheme and tell her that they can not come?
Nicole
Dear Nicole:
There are two of you getting married. Step back and let your fiancé deal with his mother. “He” needs to get control of this situation.
Do not make this your argument and your problem.
Her threats of suicide are not your fault. Her problems did not start with you, and they will not end with you.
The family who pays for the wedding (or lions share) has the expectation and the right to invite more guests.
However, if both families are contributing equally to the cost, then each family should have a set number of guests they may invite.
If either family wants to invite more than the set amount of guests, they should pick up the additional expense for those guests (providing, of course, your reception venue has the room capacity).
Rule #1: Don’t get into an argument with your in-laws. Let it go.
Focus on your wedding and your memories.
Mrs. Figgins
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