December 10, 2009
- Meeting the parents!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My girlfriend Jamie and I have been dating for five months.
We met this year in college (seniors). She has invited me to her parent’s house for dinner. I’ll be meeting them for the first time.
I’ve fallen in love Jamie but I’ve never been so nervous and stressed out about anyone or anything!
My Mum thinks I should bring a gift. She has lots of opinions on how I should dress, too.
If I was your son what advice would you give me?
Nathan S.
Dear Nathan:
I would say: “Take a deep breath and calm down.”
The fact that Jaime is introducing you to her family is a big step. But I assure you, there’s no doubt Jamie’s parents are a little nervous, too. She will always be their little girl.
If they are introduced by their first name, you may address them in that manner. Otherwise, until permission is given, address them as Mr. and Mrs.
Dads tend to be more reserved than Mums when meeting a potential son-in-law. Mum’s can be much more open, especially if they have good initial feelings based on conversations they’ve had with their daughter.
Jamie knows her family best. Have a conversation with her to discuss the appropriate attire for the evening.
You want to make a good impression. Be well groomed and appropriately dressed. It’s also important for you to feel comfortable in your own skin. Find a balance between your personal style and one that may be dressier for the occassion.
Ask Jamie about her parents interests and hobbies. Know what sensitive topics you should steer clear of.
YES, absolutely bring a hostess gift for her parents. A box of chocolates, dessert or flowers are perfect.
You obviously care Nathan, so I’m certain you’ll do just fine.
Mrs. Figgins
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