December 19, 2009
- In-law problems before the wedding – already!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
One of sons (we have 3) is getting married. He and my sister are at odds, and he refuses to invite her and her family. I’m at my wits end!
My husband and I aren’t paying for much so obviously we really don’t have much say over anything.
My sister has tried to make amends, but nothing has worked so far. I tell my son that family is all that matters.
Stuck in the middle of a wedding!
Dear Stuck:
Family can be our strength but unfortunately, it’s not always what we wish it could be.
Best advice: Since you’re not financially involved, the healthiest thing you and your husband can do is not allow this to become “your” problem.
Explain to your son and daughter in law, one last time, that the most significant thing they can do is extend an invitation to your sister. There’s a good chance they won’t have to mingle much, but the invitation will serve them well.
After that, let it go. It will either work out, or it won’t.
Life has a way of taking its course, in spite of ourselves.
Mrs. Figgins
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