March 5, 2010
- In it together!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My husband underwent a radical prostatectomy. He’s been depressed thinking he won’t be the same man because of problems with his erections.
Actually, he’s too embarrassed to talk with anyone about the fact that there’s no ejaculation.
We have always had a wonderful loving relationship. I keep telling him he’s the love of my life and nothing will or could ever change that.
Brooke, Seattle
Dear Brooke:
Even if the doctor went over the details of the surgery, effects and recovery – it still may have been overwhelming to your husband at the time. No doubt your husband’s doctor will be happy to go over the details once more.
Your husband has gone thru a traumatic procedure and recovery will take time, and so will the ability to have an erection.
According to the University of Pittsburg Cancer Institute, after a radical prostatectomy, most men will not be able to get a spontaneous erection for 3 – 12 months. Men experience “dry orgasms” in which there is no ejaculation, therefore, medication may be needed to enable an erection.
“The reason is that the two structures responsible for most of the fluid in semen – the prostate and the seminal vesicles – have been removed. The vas deferens, the tube which transports sperm from the testicles, has been shut off. This lack of fluid emission h as no connection to and does not interfere with a man’s ability to feel sexual desire and arousal, or achieve orgasm.”
Mrs. Figgins
Advice & opinion on relationships & everyday issues by Mrs. Figgins
Love,Topics,advice
