March 15, 2010
- Which Way?
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I’m at a loss and don’t know what to do.
I’ve been married for 30 years. We have 3 wonderful children and grandkids on the way.
Outwardly we are the family. The truth is that over the years my husband has had many mistresses.
Some of his relationships have lasted for several years. He’s involved in one now. I know, because his mistress came to my work. She says they’re in love.
I confronted my husband and he says the fact that he comes home every day shows he loves me. He doesn’t want a divorce. Furthermore, he refuses to talk about it anymore.
We’re financially stable and maybe that’s why he doesn’t want a divorce.
He’s the only man I’ve ever been with. I don’t know what to do. I want a different life but I am afraid of the unknown.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Not knowing which way to go in Tallahassee
Dear Not Knowing:
You need to find your self respect, to find your backbone or grown one.
Your husband is not going to change, and you are faced with a fork in the road: Stay and put up, or leave.
I would choose the latter.
It will save you many more years of deceit and pain.
Talk with a lawyer. Take back your life.
Mrs. Figgins
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