March 23, 2010
- Fishy or Not?
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I finished high school by the skin of my teeth. I tried college but dropped out my second semester. I started a little company in the oil business and it’s gone bigger than my wildest dreams. I’ve made more money than I’ll spend in this lifetime unless I give it away.
I met a great girl. Her name is Shannon. Didn’t tell her that I owned a company because I wanted to us to get to know each other for who we really are.
I have an apartment I keep for my parents when they come into town – so that’s where she thinks I live. She comes from a very traditional family with strong faith so the fact that there’s been no sex between us has made it easier for me to keep this up.
Anyway, I met her parents. Her mother asked what I do, and I told her I work offshore. We discussed that my Dad was a fisherman. Dad questioned me like I was on the witness stand. I followed up by saying I would like to finish my education at some point in the future. Her told her Shannon’s grandmother that I’m a fisherman (just so happens my Father was a fisherman).
The next day her Dad told her he was he thought I was a “good and decent chap” but didn’t think I was husband material because I wouldn’t be able to support her in a way to raise and support a family.
Should I break the news about what I really do, let it go for now or walk away?
Peter, Houston
Dear Peter:
Let it go? And, continue the lie?
Walk away? You mean walk away because you didn’t tell her the truth and she doesn’t have ESP?
Don’t blame her Dad if he smelled something fishy. He intuitively wanted to protect their daughter. This comes with the territory with parents.
Are you the real thing, Peter? So far neither Shannon nor her parents have met the real you.
It’s time for the test to be over.
If you really like this girl, my advice is that you ask them to a lovely dinner as soon as possible and come completely clean.
Othewise, Dad’s intuition is right on the money.
Mrs. Figgins
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