March 16, 2010
- Protect the children, and you.
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I have been in a physically abusive relationship. Everything was going real good in our marriage until I had the kids. Something changed and he started to become jealous. It started with a push and an apology. Then it got worse. He slapped, chocked and kicked. Something as minor as his coffee not being hot enough he’d go off and I’d get it. He never beat the kids but that fear ran through my body every single day. I have nightmares at what they saw their father do to their mother.
On my way to the grocery store, I did something I never would have imagined. I walked in and enlisted in the military. If I didn’t think enough of myself, I needed to protect my kids. I need to get my life straight and get an education so I can give my kids one.
My parents are taking care of the kids while I’m In training.
I have filed for divorce. My husband and I have only talked when it has to do with the children. He keeps saying how much he misses his family. He wants us to get back together again.
Do you think for the kids sake I should give him another chance?
Healing in Oceanside
Dear Healing:
What would you be going back for? Perhaps a broken jaw, a visit to intensive care or a one way ride to the mortuary?
Continue your new path for your sake and importantly, the sake of your children.
Children learn behavior by example. And what they saw their father do to you was horrific. They need to heal as much as you do.
It took strength and courage for you to walk in to that recruiter’s office and enlist. You had it in you, and you did the right thing.
Don’t ever look back.
Mrs. Figgins
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