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June 8, 2010
June 7, 2010
Brain in Trousers!
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Consequences
Consequences
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I’m 17 ½ years old and if I ever think of getting married I want someone to just shoot me.
My cousin who was set to marry found out that her fiancé has been having an affair with her chief bridesmaid.
We thought he was a good bloke but he turned out to be a STUPID one!
Beatrice, Cotswolds
Dear Beatrice:
How generous of you to put it so mildly.
But think about it: you’d be stupid too if you had your brain in your trousers.
Don’t give up on the idea of love Beatrice. It is the many splendored thing that makes the world stand still.
You’ll see.
Mrs. Figgins
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Advice & opinion on everyday issues by Mrs Figgins with common sense & good old-fashioned-values!
Husband in dog house!
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In The Dog House!
In The Dog House!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My wife is pregnant with our first child. I love her but she is driving me nuts feeling guilty about every little thing “we” eat or drink – even how she sleeps!
If I don’t chime to make her feel better about her choices, she gets upset because I’m not being sensitive enough.
I’m beginning to decorate the dog house!
How do men get thru this?
George, White Plains
Dear George:
Show me a woman who doesn’t feel guilty and I’ll show you a man.
A mother wants the best for her baby and she is always second guessing her choices. The changes she faces seem endless and overwhelming.
You get “thru this” by by doing everything possible to be sympathetic and empathetic. When you think you’ve done enough - keep going.
Think of it this way: Would you like to change places with your wife?
So shape up George, or back on time-out!
Mrs. Figgins
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Advice & opinion on everyday issues by Mrs Figgins with common sense & good old-fashioned-values!
June 3, 2010
She’s from Venus – and he doesn’t understand
- Venus vs Mars
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My wife has more clothes in her closet than I’ve had all my life. It’s not about the money really. It’s about “WHY”? Why is this necessary?
Does she need therapy or do I?
Benjamin, MI
Dear Benjamin:
Women never have anything to wear or so they think. They also think men just don’t understand. I admit, I agree.
My best advice is: If it’s not about the money, drop it. It’s just one of the many differences between Venus and Mars.
Mrs. Figgins
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Advice & opinion on everyday issues by Mrs Figgins with common sense & good old-fashioned-values!
May 30, 2010
Baby brings changes
- Changes
- Changes
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My wife and I are very happy parents of 18 month old beautiful little boy.
I feel things different. We love one to the other but life has been changed much by this 30 lb energy bundle.
I don’t complaining and I put one feet in front of the other.
Ralph, Munich
Dear Ralph:
When you have a baby emotional fireworks happen. Then the dust settles and everything is different from what it was before. Yes Ralph, different.
Along the way, with GOD’S help, our commitment to our spouse and good parenting, we realize how blessed we truly are.
Mrs. Figgins
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Advice & opinion on everyday issues by Mrs Figgins with common sense & good old-fashioned-values!
May 20, 2010
Can she forgive his affair?
- Every Day
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. He’s a great husband and loving father to our 1 year old little boy.
Before we got married we broke up for a few months and he had an affair. He could have kept it to himself. Instead he thought he should confess it to me before we got married. I am a great one for sweeping things under the carpet so I did.
The problem is I couldn’t get rid of the thought completely. It’s bothered me ever since. I’m not sure if I will ever be able to forget. How could he have truly loved me and do that?
Kristen, Albuquerque
Dear Kristen:
Sometimes human beings do very foolish and hurtful things.
Build a bridge in your heart, and cross over it. Forgive. Get over this (which happened long ago while you were separate and before marriage), or you will never be truly free, and in the end may cause irreparable damage.
He chose you, and you chose him. You loved each other enough to get past the affair, marry and have a son. That’s what’s important now. The “present” is the gift.
Focus on the blessings you hold.
Mrs. Figgins
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Advice & opinion on everyday issues by Mrs Figgins with common sense & good old-fashioned-values!
May 19, 2010
Drop the shtick
- Time.
Dear Mrs Figgins:
I graduated from MIT but I’m infinitely stupid.
I dated my girlfriend Jessica for 4 years. My family loves her, my friends love her, everyone loves her and more important than all that I am madly in love with her. But, I was so busy thinking that I should play the field because I had worked so hard during college, I neglected her and she broke up with me. She was right to do so.
She’s vacationing in Europe with 3 of her girlfriends and I hear she’s having a grand old time. Meanwhile I have never been so miserable in my whole life. I’ve left messages for her, but she hasn’t returned my calls. Her sister told me she still loves me but doesn’t trust that I won’t do my shtick again.
I want to marry her and now I may have lost her.
Is there anything that you can advise that might help?
Jason, Watertown
Dear Jason:
Sometimes we have to let go or even loose something priceless, before we realize our blessing.
My mother’s wise advice has always been “give time – ‘time’ ”. Jessica obviously needs it.
When she returns from holiday, and if she is willing to give your relationship another chance, you need to have your act together and priorities solidly in place. No more shtick.
She’s worth it. Now let her know you are, Jason.
Mrs. Figgins
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Advice & opinion on everyday issues by Mrs Figgins with common sense & good old-fashioned-values!
May 17, 2010
Wedding is OFF!
Wrong Guy
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I am 27 years old. I was to be married in June. Everything had been planned and I was walking on a cloud. He was everything I dreamed of. Until 7 weeks ago.
I found out my fiancé had stolen a large amount of money from the company he works for. I found out a few other things to which he never told me. He had a child with a girl when they were seniors in high school.
That day, I went to my parents and told them I wanted to call off the wedding. They have been very supportive.
Since that day 7 weeks ago, I have been in a state of shock. What happened to the man I knew. I miss him.
Am I crazy?
Courtney, Albany
Dear Courtney:
The only thing that would have qualified you as crazy is if you would have stayed with him.
Life has enough twists and turns even when everything is on the up and up.
You don’t miss him – you miss who you thought he was. And, he is not that person.
You’ve done the right thing, Courtney. Now your dreams have a real chance to come true.
Mrs. Figgins
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Advice & opinion on everyday issues by Mrs Figgins with common sense & good old-fashioned-values!
May 12, 2010
Follow Mum’s advice + gut feeling
- Keep Going
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. He has lied to me on more than one occasion about his involvement some dishonest business deals.
Mum thinks I did the right thing. A couple of my friends think I need to give him another chance.
My gut feeling is I need to listen to my gut feeling.
Your advise?
Elizabeth, Cheshire
Dear Elizabeth,
Since your Mum and gut feeling agree, my advice is that you listen to them.
Tune out all other voices, lest you end up making the mistakes of others.
Mrs. Figgins
www.askmrsfiggins.com
Advice & opinion on everyday issues by Mrs Figgins with common sense & good old-fashioned-values!
May 11, 2010
Marriage – Single – Poor – Rich – So what’s the answer?
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When things get rocky, the grass seems greener…o’er yon.
