August 15, 2010
- YOU decide.
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
There is a guy who is special to me. And I think he knew it. He comes from another country.
At the last day before he leaves, I spent all day long with him. We were fine. We kiss, we hugs.
He promised that he will keep contact with me, and comeback to my country latter. It’s been a while since he gone. But he never hit me up.
I sent him emails on his facebook, but i dont get reply. Although, I catch him online many times and talking with some of my friends.
He just dont reply mine. And it really kills me to see his profile, that he just dont talk to
me but with others. I really dont know why.
And what did i do wrong with him. What should i do now? I planed to send him another message, but i dont know what should i
write?
Belle
Dear Belle:
A man who is a schmuck is a very bad investment. And a desperate woman makes bad investments.
In your letter you write that he didn’t “hit” you? Why would you even think this if it weren’t a possibility?
My advise, run don’t walk. Get as far away from this guy as you can.
Don’t write. Don’t respond. Don’t ever see him again.
Respect yourself, and others will too. Otherwise you’ll have a lifetime of bad investments, which your children will inherit.
Mrs. Figgins
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July 26, 2010
- Oh boy…kids!!!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I am a 34 year old man who has been in a relationship with a woman for several years. She has a seven year old son from a previous marriage. I would like to have a child of my own as well, and I brought up that desire since we’ve planned to get married in the near future. The problem is she doesn’t want to have another child, mainly because of her age (39) and fear of having a sick child.
Of course she is not getting any younger and continues to resist the idea. I just don’t know what to do. I would feel very guilty of breaking this relationship and hurting her, as well as her son with whom I developed a bond over the years.
Although, he does have a father in his life who shares custody. Also, my parents are devastated she doesn’t want kids with me and it’s all taking a toll.
I just don’t know how to handle this in the best way.
Thanks for your time.
Allen
Dear Allen:
She has been very honest with you about her feelings. And, her reasons for not wanting another child is understandable, and not because she doesn’t love you.
In turn, you must search your heart and figure out if her decision is something you can live with, or if you’ll resent it in the future.
If your desire to have a child is ultimately important – staying in a relationship out of guilt is not a good enough reason.
The best way to ever handle anything is to be honest.
You must be courageous, kind and let her know the reason you breaking off the relationship because of your desire to become a father.
Time will take care of the rest.
Mrs. Figgins
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July 15, 2010
- ASPS
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My 14 year old is really into basketball, she’s a freshman
in highschool and she wants to join the team. The only problem is
that she’s been having problems with her chest when she tries to play
and we were told by her doctor that there is no way she can play this
year without a reduction surgery. She has a F cup bust size and she
is eligable for the surgery but I still feel like she is too young
and might regret it later in life. Dispite the pain, she still
practices every day and I would feel so bad telling her no. Any
advice you could give to me would be appreciated.
Thanks
SK
Dear SK:
Breast augmentation – breast reduction – is a major step for most women, and not uncommon in young women. It often plays a very positive role helping boost self-esteem and body image.
Your daughter may benefit greatly from breast reduction.
However, the need for careful screening by a board certified doctor is critical. It is not just the physical examination; it’s also an assessment of patients’ emotional and mental health and stability. Remember the consultation is a 2-way street. You should assess the surgeon to determine whether he or she is competent, caring, and appropriate. And the surgeon assesses the patient for appropriateness for the surgery.
Do your homework!
You should never do surgery — at any age or in any patient — unless the benefits outweigh the risks and the improvement that’s possible is greater than the costs and risks of surgery.
“The American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) is the largest plastic surgery specialty organization in the world. Founded in 1931, the society is composed of board-certified plastic surgeons who perform cosmetic and reconstructive surgery.”
Whether you’re considering cosmetic or reconstructive plastic surgery, you want the skill of an ASPS Member Surgeon—a doctor with more than six years of surgical training and experience, with at least three years specifically in plastic surgery. Their training and experience make them uniquely qualified to perform your cosmetic or reconstructive procedure.”
Mrs. Figgins
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July 5, 2010
- The “Date”
Dear Mrs Figgins:
I’m 35, widowed and no children. I’m going on my first date in five years. He is a friend of friends and by all reports he’s quite a lovely man. I’m excited and a nervous wreck and I would appreciate any advice.
Nervous Nelly in Nevada:
Dear Nervous Nelly:
No need to be nervous. The worst that can happen is that there’s no chemistry.
My advice is keep it light and just be you. You’ll know soon enough if you two “click”.
You just may well end up having a wonderful time, and want an encore.
Good Luck!
Mrs Figgins
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June 30, 2010
-
Character Counts
Dear Mrs Figgins:
I need to break up with my boyfriend so how do I do it? I love him but I don’t want to be with h him anymore.
Melinda, San Antonio
Dear Melinda:
Love is like war – sweet to begin, bitter to end.
And how one ends, is a measure of a person’s character.
Mrs. Figgins
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June 28, 2010
- Different!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
Why can’t a girl think more like a man? They know nothing about what make a car run. They can’t even change the oil for goodness sake!
Jeremy, Brussels
Dear Jeremy:
It’s true, most girls think in terms of “oil sticks…oil doesn’t stick”. And, that’s the extent of their mechanical interests.
However, wouldn’t it be grand if boys could think like girls “it either gets you there…or it doesn’t”. And, that’s the short answer to most of life’s questions.
Mrs. Figgins
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June 18, 2010
What's the Answer?
Mrs. Figgins Trivia Question!
Question:
Who wrote the wedding march “Here Comes The Bride”?
A: Richard Rogers
B: Neil Sedaka
C: Mozart
D: Richard Wagner
Answer:
The ‘Here Comes The Bride’ wedding march is by Richard Wagner, from the opera Lohengrin.
There are other wedding marches by Bach, Mendelssohn and Handel.
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June 16, 2010
- A good idea!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My sister-in-law makes a fool of my brother. When he drinks he gets a little loud but she makes it much worse by scolding him in front of people.
I’m getting to the point where I’m going to say something to her. What should I do?
Jonelle, TN
Dear Jonelle:
Women don’t make fools of men. Most men achieve that little trick just fine on their own.
If you need to do something, start by minding your own business.
Mrs. Figgins
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June 15, 2010
- 1/2 the problem
Dear Mrs Figgins:
My mother-in-law is ruining my marriage and I am at the end of my tether.
I got pregnant before my husband and I married and she thinks I tricked him. She has done everything to humiliate me saying that I was irresponsible and thoughtless. She has said that I interfered with his college. By the way I was also going to college. The most hurtful of all is when she calls my son a “mistake” right in front of him.
My husband just says there’s nothing he can do about her and completely dismisses my feelings.
I don’t think this is healthy for my son or my marriage
Lisa, Detroit Lakes
Dear Lisa:
Your husband has allowed his mother to humiliate you and your son. They are equally culpable.
The future of your marriage depends on what kind of man he is, and on your own self-respect.
Hubbby needs to put the brakes on Mama and become a real father and husband, or you’ll be writing the same unfortunate letter a few years from now.
Mrs. Figgins
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June 10, 2010
- Oh well…
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
Please settle a disagreement I’m having with my husband. We’re pretty well heeled but his brother is pretty much a loser. We’ve helped him out financially for years.
Recently he asked us for a loan. He went out and bought this worthless car and he’s spent five times the amount on fancy wheels. I told my husband I’m thru with handouts. He feels badly because he is successful and his brother has not been.
I don’t want to argue about this anymore so what can I do?
Jackie, MN
Dear Jackie:
Stop arguing.
Let’s face only a man would take a junker and dress it up with fancy chrome.
What a metaphor for life!
Mrs. Figgins
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