May 20, 2010
- Every Day
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. He’s a great husband and loving father to our 1 year old little boy.
Before we got married we broke up for a few months and he had an affair. He could have kept it to himself. Instead he thought he should confess it to me before we got married. I am a great one for sweeping things under the carpet so I did.
The problem is I couldn’t get rid of the thought completely. It’s bothered me ever since. I’m not sure if I will ever be able to forget. How could he have truly loved me and do that?
Kristen, Albuquerque
Dear Kristen:
Sometimes human beings do very foolish and hurtful things.
Build a bridge in your heart, and cross over it. Forgive. Get over this (which happened long ago while you were separate and before marriage), or you will never be truly free, and in the end may cause irreparable damage.
He chose you, and you chose him. You loved each other enough to get past the affair, marry and have a son. That’s what’s important now. The “present” is the gift.
Focus on the blessings you hold.
Mrs. Figgins
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