January 19, 2010
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It’s in the air!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I’m Jewish and in my mid 40’s. My husband died several years ago. He was the love of my life.
I’ve been blessed with wonderful friends, and am very active, but I dream of “love” and a companion back in my life.
To be honest, I’ve been seriously considering a professional matchmaker. I do believe I still have much life and love in me.
Do you think I’m nuts or can love really happen “the second time around”?
Joan, Boca Raton
Dear Joan:
You a woman, with a roar in numbers too big to ignore! My advice is “go for it!”.
Times have changed, Joan. Professional matchmakers are no longer viewed as a crutch for the desperate. They can make the process much less painful – many times serving as an advisor throughout the process.
A professional advertises for you behind the scene. He or she has the resources to look in the right places rather than a cul-de-sac or outright dead end.
A professional uses skills to soften the blow when a match isn’t well, “a match”.
Remember, there is a person on the other end of the rainbow looking for someone, too.
As for your question “can love happen again?”. I’ll leave you with a reminder in lyrics by writer/composer(s) Sammy Cahn & James Van Heusen
“Love is lovelier, the second time around
Just as wonderful, with both feet on the ground
It’s that second time you hear your love song sung
Makes you think perhaps that love, like youth, is wasted on the young
Love’s more comfortable the second time you fall
Like a friendly home the second time you call
Who can say, what brought us to this miracle we’ve found
There are those who’d bet
Love comes but once – and yet
I’m oh so glad we met
The second time around”
You’ll do great, Joan.
Believe.
Mrs. Figgins
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I’m Jewish too! We should get together over a bagel one day, okay?