Unfaithful husband with nosey neighbor.
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Archive for June, 2011
June 20, 2011
June 18, 2011
Tell him the relationship is off NOW!
- Clean this mess up NOW!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I’m 19 and dating a 23 year old. There is a huge part of me deep down that knows he’s not the one, and I admit (at least to you) that I don’t trust him much. He’s treated me pretty badly. He’s never been physically abusive, but he has been extremely emotionally and verbally harsh. It gets worse when he drinks.
He’s being deployed next month.. My gut is that I should just tell him now that I don’t want to continue our relationship. But my other feeling is that maybe it would be the honorable thing to wait and not tell him now, especially when he may be going off to war. He’s using his deployment as a reason for us to be sexually intimate. My faith doesn’t allow this.
If I tell my Mother (forget telling my Dad), her answer would be for me just to tell him it’s off NOW.
Mrs. Figgins, I just don’t know what to do. I’m not the confrontational type, so maybe that’s why I’m in this state.
He’s off war and I’m in a mess!
Dear In A Mess:
Let me start by saying that both your Mom and Dad would be very proud that you held on to your faith and made the right decision regarding pre-marital sex. The other choice may have been life altering.
Your Mother is wise: Tell him it’s off NOW.
I hope this ordeal has made an indelible mark on the choices and decisions that you make along your path.
Mrs. Figgins
June 14, 2011
Our relationship past is history – the present is a gift.
- Our Gift Is The Present.
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I am 62 years young. My wife of 5 years has made my life so full.
The only problem I’m dealing with is her past.
Her first husband, who past away 15 years ago, comes up at the darnest times. He did this, he did that. But he’s not here! I am. What can I do to stop this craziness?
At my wits end!
Dear Wits End:
The past is history. The present is the gift.
Don’t minimize or take away her memories any more than you want yours washed away.
Remember, she “lived “before you came into her life. You are her life now.
Live in the moment. This moment is what you have.
Mrs. Figgins
June 12, 2011
Relationship – hes not a good bet!
- Sometimes we just need to get our head out of the sand!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I am 23 years old and have developed a crush on one of my friends. He tells me he’s had strong feelings for me for a long time and can’t get me out of his mind. He wants to date.
There is just one little problem: my best friend since childhood has feelings for him, too. He tells me he doesn’t feel the same about her. I know he’s led her on, making her think there might be a possibility of a relationship between them some time down the road.
All along he’s been seeing other girls and not fessing up. He says he hasn’t told her that there’s no chance between them romantically because he loves her as a “friend” and doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. They’ve been friends for a long time, too. I’m not sure how to handle this?
I’m stuck in the middle!
Dear Stuck:
UNSTICK and QUICK!!!
Good friends last a lifetime -“crushes” don’t.
He’s led her on. What makes you think you are going to be any different?
This is not worth losing a lifetime friend over – and this guy doesn’t sound like a good bet at any table.
Life has a wonderful way of sorting things when we get out of the way.
Mrs. Figgins
June 11, 2011
In-law problems and not married yet!
- Here come the in-laws!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My fiancé and I are in a quandary. His mother and father actually told him that the bride’s parents should pay for hotel accommodations on the groom’s side of the family. That will be 9 separate rooms for 3 days.
His mother said it’s enough that their family is paying for airline tickets.
My parents are not only paying for the entire wedding, they’re also paying for the rehearsal dinner. I don’t think it’s fair, nor do I have the heart, to ask my parents to also pay for hotel rooms for his family.
I don’t know how to handle this.
Bride in the middle!
Dear Bride:
Your heart and your sense of fairness are in the right place. So is your etiquette.
It is the responsibility of the groom’s parents or family members to pay for their own travel expenses and accommodations.
You might offer to help out by checking out hotels in the area, but you should not be expected to pick up the tab. Discuss this with your fiancé. It is his position to let his parents know that family members need to pay for their hotel and expenses.
Proper etiquette dictates the rehearsal dinner be hosted by the groom’s parents. However, if your parents have graciously offered to host it, no good will come of creating a stir with the in-laws now.
It’s important to respect and honor your in-laws – and wise to pick your battles judiciously.
Mrs. Figgins
June 4, 2011
Etiqutte is alive, it's flourishing & it's essential!
Hurray For Etiquette!!!
Etiquette is alive and flourishing!
As the song goes “the fundamental things apply”. They certainly do.
The rules of etiquette and protocol have been around for centuries, and they are as important today as ever before.
But…what exactly is “etiquette”?
In polite society “etiquette” it is the acceptable behavior governed by a code of conduct or practices applied to varying situations.
What is “protocol”?
Protocol is the proper and correct form of courtesies in formal dealings.
While social norms of “acceptable” behavior may vary depending on cultural differences, there are universal guidelines.
As part of social development, it is important for children to be taught proper etiquette to help enhance their social development. This should be part of their curriculum.
I must emphasize, however, it is never too late to begin this genteel education at any age.
Hurray For Etiquette!!!
