June 9, 2010

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Zip It
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My boyfriend and me are in high school and come close to sex. I am ready but scarred that condoms can have holes. He wants for us to get marry. Can I trust?
Maribel, Calgary
Dear Maribel:
Don’t trust either one.
It’s been said that “flies” spread disease. Make sure your boyfriend keeps his zipped.
Mrs. Figgins
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June 8, 2010

- Helen Thomas
Dear Friends:
Another publicly visible anti-Semite has been revealed, yet again.
OK, I admit…we have all, at one time or another said something we’ve ended up regretting. And yes, most of us have used the time tested “I had too much to drink”.
Enter, Helen Thomas. Was it one martini too many…or just a moment of complete honesty?
Ms. Thomas – 89, liberal icon – is a “journalist” of Lebanese descent who held a coveted front row seat in the White House press room under several presidents. (Aren’t journalist “supposedly” subject to professional standards?)
Ms. Thomas’ statement that Jews should “get the hell out of Palestine” and go back to “Poland and Germany” is clear evidence that she cannot fulfill the impartial obligations of her once noble profession.
Her bigoted remarks show an ignorance of history.
The State of Israel sits where the Jewish kingdoms of Judea and Israel reigned thousands of years ago. In an area known in modern times as the British Mandate of Palestine, Jews have lived for thousands of years.
“I deeply regret my comments,” she said in the statement, claiming they “do not reflect my heart-felt belief that peace will come to the Middle East only when all parties recognize the need for mutual respect and tolerance.”
Really?
Au revoi, Ms. Thomas. Au revoi.
Mrs. Figgins
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- Give these a try!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My wife’s sister Lily has been living with us for going on three years.
I’m fond of the old gal but her constant chatter is enough to send me over the edge. How do I shut her up during the playoff’s?
Jim, Little Rock
Dear Jim.
If you’re real smart – you won’t even try.
By now you’ve learned one undeniable truth: Women love to talk.
As far as women are concerned “silence” is a space to fill, even if they’ve nothing to say. Consider it “decorating”.
By the way, I have a pair of those TV Ears and they work great. So what the heck, give them a try Jim!
Mrs. Figgins
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June 7, 2010

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Consequences
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
I’m 17 ½ years old and if I ever think of getting married I want someone to just shoot me.
My cousin who was set to marry found out that her fiancé has been having an affair with her chief bridesmaid.
We thought he was a good bloke but he turned out to be a STUPID one!
Beatrice, Cotswolds
Dear Beatrice:
How generous of you to put it so mildly.
But think about it: you’d be stupid too if you had your brain in your trousers.
Don’t give up on the idea of love Beatrice. It is the many splendored thing that makes the world stand still.
You’ll see.
Mrs. Figgins
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In The Dog House!
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My wife is pregnant with our first child. I love her but she is driving me nuts feeling guilty about every little thing “we” eat or drink – even how she sleeps!
If I don’t chime to make her feel better about her choices, she gets upset because I’m not being sensitive enough.
I’m beginning to decorate the dog house!
How do men get thru this?
George, White Plains
Dear George:
Show me a woman who doesn’t feel guilty and I’ll show you a man.
A mother wants the best for her baby and she is always second guessing her choices. The changes she faces seem endless and overwhelming.
You get “thru this” by by doing everything possible to be sympathetic and empathetic. When you think you’ve done enough - keep going.
Think of it this way: Would you like to change places with your wife?
So shape up George, or back on time-out!
Mrs. Figgins
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June 3, 2010

- Venus vs Mars
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My wife has more clothes in her closet than I’ve had all my life. It’s not about the money really. It’s about “WHY”? Why is this necessary?
Does she need therapy or do I?
Benjamin, MI
Dear Benjamin:
Women never have anything to wear or so they think. They also think men just don’t understand. I admit, I agree.
My best advice is: If it’s not about the money, drop it. It’s just one of the many differences between Venus and Mars.
Mrs. Figgins
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June 2, 2010

Is Silence Golden?
Dear Friends:
A divided Supreme Court has ruled that a suspect must clearly declare that he wants to remain silent and cannot simply be silent, once rights have been read and questioning begun.
By a 5 -4 vote this ruling scales back the ”Miranda” right and enhances prosecutors’ ability to assert that a suspect waived his right to remain silent even when he did not say so
Below is the Associated Press article on the case: Berghuis v. Thompkins, 08-1470.
Supreme Court: Suspects Still Have the Right to Remain Silent, But Must Say So
Associated Press June 01, 2010
WASHINGTON — The Supreme Court ruled Tuesday that suspects must explicitly tell police they want to be silent to invoke Miranda protections during criminal interrogations, a decision one dissenting justice said turns defendants’ rights “upside down.”
A right to remain silent and a right to a lawyer are the first of the Miranda rights warnings, which police recite to suspects during arrests and interrogations. But the justices said in a 5-4 decision that suspects must tell police they are going to remain silent to stop an interrogation, just as they must tell police that they want a lawyer.
The ruling comes in a case where a suspect, Van Chester Thompkins, remained mostly silent for a three-hour police interrogation before implicating himself in a Jan. 10, 2000, murder in Southfield, Mich. He appealed his conviction, saying that he invoked his Miranda right to remain silent by remaining silent.
But Justice Anthony Kennedy, writing the decision for the court’s conservatives, said that wasn’t enough.
“Thompkins did not say that he wanted to remain silent or that he did not want to talk to police,” Kennedy said. “Had he made either of these simple, unambiguous statements, he would have invoked his ‘right to cut off questioning.’ Here he did neither, so he did not invoke his right to remain silent.”
Justice Sonia Sotomayor, the court’s newest member, wrote a strongly worded dissent for the court’s liberals, saying the majority’s decision “turns Miranda upside down.”
“Criminal suspects must now unambiguously invoke their right to remain silent — which counterintuitively, requires them to speak,” she said. “At the same time, suspects will be legally presumed to have waived their rights even if they have given no clear expression of their intent to do so. Those results, in my view, find no basis in Miranda or our subsequent cases and are inconsistent with the fair-trial principles on which those precedents are grounded.”
Van Chester Thompkins was arrested for murder in 2001 and interrogated by police for three hours. At the beginning, Thompkins was read his Miranda rights and said he understood.
The officers in the room said Thompkins said little during the interrogation, occasionally answering “yes,” “no,” “I don’t know,” nodding his head and making eye contact as his responses. But when one of the officers asked him if he prayed for forgiveness for “shooting that boy down,” Thompkins said, “Yes.”
He was convicted, but on appeal he wanted that statement thrown out because he said he invoked his Miranda rights by being uncommunicative with the interrogating officers.
The Cincinnati-based appeals court agreed and threw out his confession and conviction. The high court reversed that decision.
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