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Dear Mrs. Figgins:

My husband, son and I live in Phoenix.  I’m due next month with our 2nd child (it’s a GIRL!!!). 

This week we received a call from my husband’s brother wants to move with his wife and two kids from Idaho to Pheonix.  They’ll need a place to stay for a while.  Guess where they want to stay?  YUP, with us,  andmy husband said OK without discussing it with me first.  Well it’s not OK with me.  With the new baby coming I’m not in any way up to this task. 

 My sister-in-law has created problems in the family, over and over again.  I’ve always managed to mind my own business, and stay out of the middle of their fights.  This is stressing me out so much, that I almost fell yesterday.

I need this time to be as peaceful as possible! 

 Please help 

Jackie in Pheonix, Az.

 

 Dear Jackie:

There is nothing more important than your health and well being and that of your baby girl, son and husband. 

My advice is that you sit down with your husband TODAY and tell him exactly how you feel, and the stress this is causing you. 

Tell him that he will need to call his brother and let him know that with the baby due, you’ll not be able to accommodate them.  They will need to make other lodging arrangements.

Best to take care of this TODAY.

Many congratulations and blessings on your Baby Girl! 

Mrs. Figgins

 

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Divorce

 

 

Dear Mrs. Figgins:

Can you tell us what is devorce?  Our Dad has a girlfriend and my Mom doesn’t want us to live together anymore.

Do you think we should change schools so he dosen’t see that girl anymore?

We are saying our prayers to stop them because we don’t want to divorce them.

Justin and Daniel

 

Dear Justin and Daniel: 

You need to know that your parents are not divorcing you.  Neither one of you is responsible, and nothing that has happened is your fault.   

Your parents’ decision to divorce doesn’t affect their love for you in any way.  There is no doubt that they love you more than anything else on earth.   

Your Mom and Dad have decided that they no longer want to be married and therefore won’t be living together anymore. 

One of the things they will be doing is signing legal papers that make them each single again and allow them to marry other people if they should want to. 

It’s not easy for your parents to decide “not to be married”.  I’m sure they have spent a very long time trying to solve problems before deciding to divorce.   Sometimes in life, things just can’t be fixed, and in the case of your parents, the decision to divorce is the best solution.  

Most kids don’t want their parents to divorce.   Sometimes, both parents want to divorce, and sometimes, at first, only one parent wants the divorce.  But no matter what your parent’s reasons are, one thing is absolutely for sure:  you are their #1 priority.    

Remember that they are going thru a difficult time, too.  The decision your parents are making is a very difficult one.   

Do your best at school and be kind to each other.  Keep saying your prayers.  Everything is going to work out.

 You can write me any time.  I will be happy to hear from you.

Mrs. Figgins 

 

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Wife in doubt???

 

Dear Mrs. Figgins:

My husband Gerardo is a bit of an alcoholic, and I’ve been able to deal with that.  

Now it is cramping our sex life, and he’s having an “attention” problem.    

Please give me your honest opinion.  Do you think my husband is having an affair on me?

Judy, MO

 

Dear Judy: 

I don’t dare speculate about Gerardo’s lack of “attention” but, men who drink too much alcohol, smoke, or use illegal drugs are also at risk for erection problems.

An erection goes “down” because the arteries narrow, the veins expand, and the blood drains out of the penis.   The penis returns to its normal size and is no longer rigid. 

My advice is that your husband discuss this matter with his doctor.   No doubt he’ll be able to give you an accurate diagnosis on Gerardo’s lack of “attention”.

Mrs.  Figgins

 

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